Polyamory, Sex, and Relationships

Kendal’s Garden

About Kendal

 

This blog is my attempt to bridge the gap in therapy between client and coach.  During my research I found that the most common complaint I heard was that clients did not feel as though their therapist related to them or had been where they are. This website is a combination of my personal and professional lives. I have been where you’ve been and I am making it through. I decided to start this blog to document my journey through polyamory and educate others. It is the story of how I discovered and rediscovered myself. How I found the love of my life and almost lost him.

My path has been hard and hopefully we can both find support and comfort here. We can share our pain and maybe you can avoid making the mistakes that I made. Knowing that there was a community and support out there for people like me was invaluable. They made me feel normal, like I wasn’t being crazy or asking for too much.

Hopefully this blog becomes a safe place for you. I encourage you to reach out to me, challenge me, share your pain with me and your joy. Poly relationships are just as healthy and valid as monogamous relationships when practiced ethically. My journey isn’t over though, its really just beginning and I encourage you to tag along for the ride. Welcome to my garden.

What is Polyamory?

 Everyone has their own personal definition of what it means to be poly. For me poly is the ability to ethically have consecutive, sexual and emotional relationships with multiple people. Poly allows me to live my life as the most authentic version of myself.

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Am I Polyamorous?

You might be wondering if you’re poly and if you’ve dug so deep into the internet that you’ve reached my blog then there’s a good chance that you are.

I knew that I was poly when I fell in love with someone who was not my husband. Read about our story here. Hopefully your journey has not been as painful as mine

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Latest Blog Posts

Professional Column

Polyamory 101

Polyamory 101

Polyamory is… Polyamory is amazing, it is complex, it’s easy, and it’s hard. Polyamory is a form of ethical non-monogamy that requires the knowledge and consent of all parties involved. There are many ways to practice poly. How it’s done will vary with every poly...

5 Tips For Managing Depression

5 Tips For Managing Depression

Disclaimer: First and foremost this blog post is not an attempt to sway you from seeing your doctor. You should always heed the advice of your medical professional and consult them before discontinuing any medication that you have been prescribed. These tips are meant...

Poly+Mono Relationships

Poly+Mono Relationships

So let's jump right in. If you've been alive for more than five minutes then you know that interpersonal relationships are hard. And if you are or have ever been in love with someone who had a different love orientation than you then you know that this can be...

Sharing Finances When You’re Poly

Sharing Finances When You’re Poly

Money is one of the biggest things that couples fight over, which can be especially difficult when you're in a relationship with more than one person. When my husband and I were in a closed relationship, money became a source of tension for us. He was the primary...

Love Languages

Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages is a book written by Gary Chapman. The book is not backed by any academic source but it does have certain points that ring true with me and that I see consistently supported in my own life and the lives of people around me. Knowing how your...

Setting Boundaries

Setting Boundaries

Boundaries vs. Rules Boundaries are an important part of any healthy relationship. When setting your boundaries it is important to know your limits. You cant set good boundaries if you don't know what your values and limits are. Self awareness is essential to setting...

How to Communicate

How to Communicate

Communicating can be hard, but it's the foundation of any healthy, stable, and functional relationship. Without good communication, your relationships are likely to be complicated and more stressful than they need to be. So, here are some tips on how to be an...

My Personal Story

Knocking On Polys’ Door

Knocking On Polys’ Door

Society tells us that love can conquer anything. That there is someone out there for everyone and when you find your other half you wont notice or desire anyone else; your life will be complete. For a long time I believed that it was true. So, when I went to college...

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